I recently tried the Datemyage app to meet more age-compatible matches, but I’m unsure if the features, pricing, and profiles are actually worth it or if I’m missing red flags. Can anyone who’s used Datemyage give a real, detailed review of your experience, including safety, fake profiles, and whether you actually met genuine people?
Used Datemyage for about 2 months last year. Short version. It works, but only if you treat it like a paid time-limited experiment and watch your wallet like a hawk.
Here is what stood out for me.
- User base
I’m in my mid 40s, large US city.
I got about:
• 20 to 25 profile views per day
• 3 to 6 “likes” per day
• 1 to 3 message threads that looked real per week
Ratio of fake or low-effort to real people felt around 3:1.
Big mix of people from Eastern Europe and South America. Fewer local matches than Tinder, Bumble, Hinge.
- Profiles
Red flags I kept seeing:
• Same style of glamour photos, heavy filters, perfect lighting
• Very generic bios
• People responding instantly at all hours, with similar writing style
The real profiles had:
• Slightly imperfect photos, casual pics, group shots
• Specific details in bio like work, kids, hobbies, locations
• Slower response times and more normal conversation patterns
If someone pushes chat, photos, or video only inside the app and avoids moving to WhatsApp, Signal, or normal text after a few days, I treat it as low trust.
- Pricing and coins
This is where it hurts.
You pay for “credits” or “coins” to chat.
Things that cost credits:
• Sending or reading messages
• Sending photos
• Sometimes video chat
I spent about 120 dollars over 6 weeks, which breaks down to roughly:
• 3 proper conversations that lasted more than a few days
• 1 actual in-person date
One conversation ate 25+ dollars because longer messages consumed more credits.
Strategy that helped:
• Set a hard budget before you start
• Stop replying to anyone who writes long, fluffy messages that say nothing
• Move to another platform once rapport feels decent, do not stay in paid chat longer than needed
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Support and cancellations
Subscription cancel worked, but you must double check both:
• App store subscription
• Any in-app recurring packages
I got charged one extra cycle because I missed one of them. That one is on me, but the flow is not clear. -
Safety checks
I did reverse image searches on suspicious pictures.
Found two profiles that used stock model images.
Also saw identical text across several “different” profiles. That looked like script-driven chats. -
Who it suits
Makes some sense for:
• 35+ who want older or age-matched partners
• People open to long-distance or international dating
Not great if you:
• Want lots of local dates fast
• Hate pay-per-message systems
My honest outcome:
• One decent real-life date
• A couple of friendly ongoing chats moved to WhatsApp
• A lot of paid small talk that felt like I was feeding a meter
If you try it, I’d suggest:
• Treat it as a 1-month trial, budgeted
• Use image search on photos
• Push to voice or video outside the app after 3 to 5 days
• Stop once you hit your budget, even if someone “promises” to meet soon
It is not total trash, but you pay a premium for every step, and you need to treat almost every profile as “unproven” until they pass basic checks.
Used Datemyage for about 3 months, on and off. My take is slightly different from @chasseurdetoiles, so here’s another angle.
For me it felt less like “a dating app” and more like a hybrid of dating + paid chat service.
What actually worked:
- I did match with people roughly in my age range (late 30s / early 40s) more reliably than on Tinder.
- A few profiles were genuinely serious about long term stuff, not just “seeing what’s out there.”
- Video call inside the app worked fine technically, no lag, audio was ok.
Where it lost me:
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Monetization creep
The whole coin/credit mechanic pushes you to keep spending in tiny chunks. It’s death by a thousand microtransactions. I’d honestly rather pay a flat sub and chat freely, even if it’s pricey. -
Conversation quality
I disagree a bit with the 3:1 fake/low effort ratio. Mine felt more like 5:1.
Red flags I saw a ton:- People overly affectionate on message 3
- “Babe / honey” stuff instantly
- Overly polished life story, like a template: “lost my husband in car accident, moved here to start new life, looking for honest man.” It popped up in slightly different versions several times.
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Location weirdness
Profiles listed as “nearby” that suddenly turned out to be “currently traveling” from another continent once the chat got going. Huge red flag for me. Not necessarily scams, but definitely not transparent. -
Value vs outcome
I spent around 150 bucks total.
Result:- 2 real video calls
- 0 in‑person dates
- Several chats that mysteriously got super active right after I topped up coins, then cooled off when I tried to move to Telegram / WhatsApp
Could just be selection bias, but the timing felt… suspicious.
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Psychological angle
The app is basically gamified to make you think, “I’ve already spent THIS much, might as well buy more credits so I don’t ‘waste’ this promising chat.” Classic sunk cost trap.
If you’re even slightly vulnerable to that, this app will chew your wallet.
Who might still like it:
- If you are very specifically seeking someone 35+ and are open to cross‑border relationships.
- If you enjoy long text chats and flirting online and are ok treating your spending as “entertainment cost,” not as “date cost.”
Blunt verdict:
It’s not pure scam territory for me, but it leans toward over-monetized fantasy more than practical dating. If your goal is actual local dates without feeling like a walking ATM, I’d put Datemyage firmly in the “maybe play with a free trial / tiny budget, but do not invest your hopes or main budget here” category.
If you stick with it, I’d say your main “red flag detector” should be: if someone gets more excited about prolonged chat inside the paid system than about switching to a normal platform or planning a real meeting, mentally mark that as entertainment, not a potential partner.
Used Datemyage for about 6 weeks, spent roughly 90 bucks, so here’s my take, building on what @chasseurdetoiles and the other reply already said.
Pros of Datemyage app
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Age‑focused pool
If you are 35+, it’s noticeably easier to find people in your bracket than on “everyone and their cousin” apps. I actually saw more 40+ profiles than on Bumble or Tinder combined in my city. -
Interface & tech
App is clean, not glitchy. Registration and verification are pretty smooth. Video and photo sharing work as advertised. On a pure UX level, Datemyage is not trash. -
Some real conversations
I did get 3 chats that felt authentic, not just scripted flirting. One woman suggested a phone call before I did, which made me think not everyone on there is just farming credits.
Cons of Datemyage app
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Pricing structure
I partly disagree with the “only entertainment” angle, but the coin system is objectively rough. You burn credits faster than you expect, especially with longer messages and media. It feels more like a premium chat line than a normal subscription dating app. -
Intent mismatch
Quite a few users seem to enjoy the in‑app chat loop and stall whenever you bring up meeting or moving to cheaper channels. Could be habit, could be incentives. Either way, if you want quick IRL dates, the app can be frustrating. -
Profile repetitiveness
I also noticed similar backstories, though not as extreme as the 5:1 ratio someone mentioned. Still, when three people in one week mention near‑identical tragic losses followed by “looking for honest man,” it starts to feel copy‑pasted. -
Geographic fuzziness
“Nearby” often meant “in the same continent, maybe.” The location blur is a real thing. Not always malicious, but you should assume at least regional rather than local.
Is Datemyage worth it?
If you treat Datemyage as a targeted app for older dating and budget for it like a paid hobby instead of an efficient date generator, it can have some value. Compared to what @chasseurdetoiles described, I had slightly better luck spotting real people, but my outcome was still:
- 1 voice call
- 0 in‑person dates
- A handful of decent but expensive chats
Who it fits:
- Over 35, maybe divorced / widowed, patient, and not in a rush to meet
- Comfortable with cross‑border or at least long‑distance starts
- OK with a microtransaction model and clear about your own spending limits
Who should probably skip:
- Anyone on a tight budget
- People who want local, quick meetups
- Anyone prone to sunk‑cost thinking
Quick sanity rules if you continue using it:
- Set a hard monthly coin limit and stick to it.
- Suggest a switch to a normal platform or a video call by day 3–4 of chatting.
- If they insist on staying in the paid chat indefinitely, treat it as a red flag or, at best, a paid fantasy.
So, Datemyage is not an automatic scam, but it is a high‑friction, high‑cost environment. Pros: older user base, decent tech, some real people. Cons: aggressive monetization, location fuzziness, and a noticeable chunk of “too scripted to be real” profiles.